Getting to know yourself 
One of the very first steps of coming out is acknowledging to yourself what your sexual preferences and/or your gender expression are. This may sound really obvious, but for lots of people admitting to themselves that they are gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans can be hard for lots of reasons. 

It could be because they have been brought up to think that being one of these things is wrong, or because they are worried about being teased or bullied. 

If you are not sure if you are gay, lesbian, or bisexual, you may find it helpful to talk to someone you trust about your feelings. 

Who to tell? 
When you are first coming out the most sensible option is to tell someone who you trust and who you think will be supportive and understanding. 

It will probably help if they are someone who can keep a secret, as you may not want other people finding out before you are feeling comfortable and confident about your sexuality. This person could be a close friend, family member or a trusted adult such as a teacher or youth worker. 

Will it change things? 
Hopefully coming out will change things for the better for you, as you will not feel that there is a big part of your life that you have to keep secret. Many people describe feeling relieved that they can be open and about who they are. 

However, there can be a downside to coming out, as you may come across people, including friends and family, who are homophobic (prejudiced against gay, lesbian, or bisexual people) who might make you feel angry, upset or scared. You might experience discrimination. 

This is why it can be helpful to tell a small group of trusted people first, as that way you will feel supported and have people to talk to about how things are going. 

Take your time
Remember, if you are not sure of how you feel about your sexuality, there is no hurry to make your mind up or tell people. Coming out is a very individual thing and it is important to do it in your own way and in your own time. 

Support
Some groups hold discussions for people who wonder about their sexual orientation. You can find some of them in the contact section of this website.

Source : Terrence Higgins Trust